THE ATTACK OF THE MEAN GIRL MOM – & HOW TO WALK AWAY FROM POINTLESS GIRL DRAMA TO STAY THE BETTER PERSON!
One of my most read posts every single month consistently every month is walking away from toxic friends, which you can read here! Girl relationships can be complex, and you think when you become an adult or a Mom it will go away, but sadly it does not. Women, (yes US doing it to ourselves) are the biggest culprits of treating other women horribly, being jealous, being petty, bringing the drama, & just being miserable!
I can proudly say I surround myself at this point in life with the most wonderful group of women that I am thankful for. I cut out anyone toxic, anyone miserable, anyone who drained my energy. I wanted my time spent with friends to be full of laughs, making memories, & enjoying each others company. And guess what? You can do all that without bashing others, talking crap, and being a toxic person towards others!
There are some women (you all know a few) who just LOVE the drama! These are the people who are truly the unhappiest inside. Maybe they are not happy in their marriage, maybe they are not happy in their career, with their friends, maybe the stress of being a mother is something they cannot handle. But you KNOW who these women are. They are the negative people you hear always complaining, always talking badly about others, always in other people’s business, always blaming others for every single thing that happens to them. These types of women are DRAINING! Every time they talk, it is something negative about someone or something. These women THRIVE off watching others so closely & speaking negatively about people for anything & everything (these are the women who truly the MOST MISERABLE).
I have been asked to talk about this topic before & since I am so much about empowering woman & supporting woman, I knew this should be shared!
I recently have heard another local Mom (who I was warned by multiple people to stay FAR away from for years) was talking badly about me. Not someone I know well. Not someone I socialize with. She is someone I say hi & bye to (especially since I was warned by others that she is the type of woman listed above). She is someone I also have NEVER said a bad word about ever, just kept it short & sweet. I am so busy in my own life, I never am looking too much into, or stalking the whereabouts, or analyzing others in order to be able to talk about them negatively. Apparently this mom was. She had made comments about myself, without knowing the hardships I have had the past few months with my health, the health of members of my family, surgeries (planned & unplanned). This apparently was not an isolated incident, because others came forward with other stories about her speaking badly about me.
I found it weird & strange, that someone I just say hi & bye to (and we do not cross paths more than that), would have taken this much interest in me, where I am, & where I am not. I only know that for myself, I would never have the time, or the unhappiness inside, to be looking for reasons to be speaking negatively about others.
So how do I handle this? With class! With being the better person! I will not feed into someones drama, someones misery, someones unhappiness, that chose to make me a target of their negativity. I will stay happy, stay positive, & be a good role model for my daughters.
If you encounter this kind of mean Mom, or someone who wants to fight, wants the drama, wants the problems, do not entertain them. Raise your head high, be confident, do not give them ammo. Let them keep their unhappiness, let them keep their misery. You choose happy! You choose to be a good friend! You choose to be a good person! Don’t let a few bad women sour you & change the beautiful woman you are! Being the mean mom is a horrible thing to pass down to children (remember they are ALWAYS listening & watching). Show them how to be the better person. Show them how to be a good friend! Lead by example!
If you have been friends with someone for 10 years, 1 year or 1 month, you still do not have to tolerate negative people around you. It is okay to politely walk away & not keep those people around you!
Remember treat your TRUE friends like gold, value them, support them, & let them know they are appreciated & loved!